Going through a divorce is a complicated and emotional experience. Simple day-to-day life can suddenly feel like you’re climbing Mount Everest when all you really want is a fair and reasonable outcome in the divorce (a divorce you might not have wanted to begin with!) Not only is your living arrangement changing, but now you are worried about your financial future and your relationship with your children. The resulting stress affects even the strongest and most grounded of individuals.
While the emotional ups and downs can’t be avoided entirely, here are some strategies that you can use to reduce your stress levels and prepare you for the next chapter of your life:
When so many fundamental aspects of your life are changing, you are likely to feel both uncertain and lacking in direction. Having no organized plans for the future adds to the stress, making you feel like your life is in a state of free-fall. A really good way to ground yourself is to set goals and take daily actions to accomplish these goals. Over time you will start to feel more in control of your own fate. When this happens your emotions are less likely to cloud your thinking.
Accept the Change
It’s normal to be apprehensive about change. Even an unhappy-but-familiar situation can be easier to deal with than starting over. Your life is now in a state of transition and full of unsettling processes, such as: gathering documents, settlement negotiations, changes in living arrangements, and less time with your children. There can be a tremendous reduction in stress levels by understanding and accepting that the situation is only temporary and might be the forerunner to much happier times.
Connect with People
Divorce is an isolating experience. Depression and shame can leave you without any inclination to socialize. You might not even want to leave the house unless you must! As tough as it seems, there is great benefit in making efforts to meet with friends and family who understand and support you. Being out and in the company of supporting people can distract you from the negative emotions and thoughts associated with divorce. You will feel better, refreshed, and more positive when you make positive connections!
Practice Mindful Meditation
You’ve likely got a lot of anxious thoughts running through your head. Will you get custody of the kids? How are they taking the divorce? How will your budget change? If these alarming ideas are disrupting your life, try replacing them with positive ones via mindful meditation practices. Research has proven that meditating for even just a few minutes each day can leave you feeling less stressed and more grounded.
Eat Well and Exercise
We don’t always take proper care of ourselves after a relationship ends. Drinking too much, eating unhealthy foods, and spending evenings on the couch jeopardizes our health and prevents proper recovery. A healthy, balanced diet and exercise program will make you look and feel better! This also increases levels of healthy, depression-fighting chemicals in your brain, so plan some balanced meals and find a workout partner to encourage you.
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At the Von Dohlen Law Firm, we are committed to providing you with practical legal counsel as well as supporting you personally as you transition through your divorce. We have helped many people navigate the complex issues involved in Texas divorce matters and will work to achieve a fair and reasonable result for you. Please contact us at (713) 443-6730.