Encouraging Words for Divorced Men and Men About to Go Through a Divorce

We may not show it all the time, but the pain of divorce is very real for men. Some of us were married for years, others were practically newlywed when the split occurred. What we all have in common is that we’re no longer married to (or about to be divorced from) the person we thought we’d spend the rest of our lives with.

This may sound like a cliche to you now, but there is light at the end of the tunnel. There is every reason to believe that you’re headed towards a brighter and better future. All of the quotes below reflect one essential truth: you were happy and successful before, and you will be again. For you, divorce is not an end, but a beginning.

  1.     “Only I can change my life. No one can do it for me.” – Carol Burnett

You may think that you are alone without your spouse. While family is an important part of your life, don’t discount your own power and importance- ever. Divorce is a time when it’s easy to forget our worth and ability. When your expectations fail to match up perfectly with reality, you have the ability to deal with the disappointment and move on. No one else can do it for you, so envision what you want your future to be, and go for it!

  1.     “When you forgive, you in no way change the past – but you sure do change the future.” – Bernard Meltzer

Maybe your ex hurt you. A lot. But if you’re still angry, you’re giving them power over you and making it difficult to move forward. When you forgive, you release the past and face the future without the same shadow constantly hovering over you. Letting go is not the same as saying that you’re completely fine with what happened. You’re sending a firm message that you’re not going to carry extra baggage as you move on to a positive new beginning.

  1.     “Sometimes walking away has nothing to do with weakness, and everything to do with strength. We walk away not because we want others to realize our worth and value, but because we finally realize our own.” – Robert Tew

Initiating or agreeing to a divorce does not mean that you “threw in the towel” too easily. This is an accusation that divorced men hear often, and it is completely unfounded. Divorce means that you knew in your heart that the marriage was not going to work. There is no shame in that fact. You have the chance to start anew. If you have children, they can enjoy close relationships with both parents, minus the tension that marked the days prior to the divorce.

  1.     “The secret of change is to focus all of your energy not on fighting the old, but on building the new.” – Socrates

It’s tempting to mull over the past and to long for it when the future seems uncertain, but letting go is the first step in both healing and reinventing yourself. Reconnect with friends you may have lost touch with. Take up a new hobby. Look into enjoyable things you can do with the kids. Look forward – not back.

For strong and supportive legal representation during your Texas divorce, contact attorney Robert Von Dohlen at (713) 443-6730 to schedule a free consultation. Robert is committed to helping other men make it through this difficult stage in their lives and retain the resources they need to recover from divorce emotionally and financially.

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